If everyone were given a dollar for the times they were told they were incapable of something; all of us would be millionaires. Never look to anyone else for validation, inspiration, or motivation. If you happen to see it in another, so be it. But never search for these things. Only you have everything you need, and life is a long journey to discover everything about yourself. Do not get to the end of your life and realize you are still a mystery. Whatever you are currently doing, commit everything to it. Decide that you would rather die than give up on anything. You will fail, you will feel pain, you will question yourself, but you will never quit. You are literally willing to do everything necessary to find out who you are.
Hey Ladies, it is almost time the Men’s Empowerment Summit. It’s next Saturday September 23, 2017 from 9am to 1pm at Cal State University, Dominguez Hills. We need to encourage all the men in our lives to come. It is time for our men to take control of their lives, starting with their health and well-being. It is necessary for men to take care of themselves, so they can lead and be an example for the next generation of men.
Let’s make this a great event by bringing our men.
Let’s be mindful of the people that are in need because of the hurricanes that have hit in Texas, the Caribbean, and Florida. Also the people in Mexico who were affected by the earthquake. Let us send money, clothes, shoes , food, water and supplies. Check with your local Red Cross and churches that are sending relief to find out what the people need. We also need to pray for the safety of the First Responders and T.V. Personnel that are combing the areas to make sure everyone is okay.
This Sunday September 3, 2017 marks 40 years of my mother’s death. She was my best friend. She was the kind of mother that you could talk to everyday about anything, and I did. Her family was her life. She was cool with everyone. She kept up with all the latest styles of clothing. I wore her clothes on several occasions. She was full of life. She loved good music and she was a great dancer. Growing up our house was the house that all the kids came over.
I struggled mentally and physically for many years as a result of her death. I put my feelings aside because I was so hurt. I did not want to live, so there was no reason to seek help. I don’t think this was a good idea, but at the time I did. I am saying all this to say, when something tragic happens to you, seek help immediately for as long as you need it. The sooner you address your pain the better.
The pain has not gone away, but I have learned to manage it.
God has blessed our family. We have had some set backs but through it all God has always been there. In the midnight hour, God turned our family around in every area of our lives.
Today instead of crying, we celebrate her life and the joy she brought to all of us.
Some have phrased it as, “Insanity is repeating the same pattern and expecting a different result”. Do not get this confused with perseverance. That is something completely different in nature. Some of us are afraid to truly live because we cannot see the outcome. If we were truly honest with ourselves, how many of us would choose routine over happiness? What is the cost of happiness? I think a better question would be to ask the cost of routine. Why are we afraid to sacrifice what we have for what we want? We want to fly but we want to stay away from the ledge. Extraordinary is not found anywhere near predictable or logical. Extraordinary happens when you surpass ordinary. You must roll the dice, if you will. It is not easy because it requires that you do what you are not comfortable with. But what is comfort? Ask yourself what you are truly comfortable with. Some people are comfortable with debt. They may not want it, but they are comfortable with it because they have had it for so long. Some people are comfortable with back pain. Some would say that those are “just a part of life”. They are if you believe them to be. But how ironic is it that we think someone is crazy who dreams of being the first man to walk on Mars. Why is that not a part of life? Will that not happen someday? Why is that harder to grasp than having debt you cannot get rid of? Maybe it is not the call that will kill us, but the ledge itself. The ledge is keeping our feet bound, stopping us from venturing out, seeing where life will take us. Why are we afraid of what we do not know or understand? This life did not come with an instruction manual. That means the only way to truly find out what reality is, is to go find out for yourself.
For too long men have swept their health under the rug because society has told them it’s not manly. It’s time to make a change. On September 23, 2017 from 9am to 1pm bring the men in your life; your husbands, sons, brothers, uncles, and cousins, to California State University Dominguez Hills. They’ll have health experts there that can help improve their diet and also let them know about benefits they can receive that many men don’t know about. My husband was just telling me the other day how there are so many veteran’s who have served and are now homeless, and it doesn’t have to be that way. They’ll also have information on how to improve mental health since we all know that men can be so stubborn and never talk about their problems to us or their friends. It won’t be all work and no play though. There will also be food, music, and fun for the whole family. Also check out the biker community that will be there including the L.A. Gentlemen, The Buffalo Soldiers, Kings of Cali and Enlightened Ministries. We’ll also be mentoring the next generation of men and give them tips on operating in society as a man including how to escort a lady and even tying a tie. Ladies, this is going to be an amazing catalyst for change so please bring the men in your life and have them be the change we want to see in the community, because I will also be bringing mine!!!
Freedom is the state of being free or at liberty rather than in confinement or under physical restraint. That’s what we have as Christians. God has given us the freedom to be all we want to be. All we have to do is walk in it by faith. We have to be like the little child who believes what their father says is true. By faith, the father tells his child to jump, the child jumps because he knows his father will catch him. The question is, how well do you know The Father?
• Renting an Apartment vs. Owning a Home
• Graduating High School vs. Graduating College
• Having a Job vs. Having a Career
• Dreaming the Dream vs. Living the Dream
Make no mistake. The former of these points is absolutely fine. There is nothing wrong with them. And that is my point. Some people are just fine with where they are, and that is alright. But if that is not you, then you can’t settle at good. For some people, good just isn’t enough. Good won’t work. Because fulfillment isn’t at good, big dreams aren’t at good, better jobs aren’t at good, and better lives aren’t at good. Greatness takes more; it takes unusual sacrifice, it takes unusual work ethic, it takes unusual commitment, and it takes unusual disregard for comfort. You’re not going to get to the highest plateau doing what you need to when it is easy, when the conditions are favorable, after you were able to sleep for ten hours. For the most part, it happens when it requires something of you that you are not sure you can give at that moment. The moment comes after you’ve been worn down by other tests. It comes at the time when you don’t expect it, when you are not ready for it, and you have to dedicate everything to achieve it. And if that scares you, you are not ready. Give it time, and that will come, but you are not ready at this moment. Because you can’t just say that you want it. When you really want it, deep inside; when it occupies your every thought, every second of your day, every time you drift off, you find yourself thinking that. When you put everything you have to this goal, because you don’t have any other desire, which is that strong as this one. You need it, because this is what makes your heart content. If you had this, you wouldn’t want for anything else. So good might be enough for you, but I want great.
Get your house in order. I am not literally talking about your house, it is a metaphor. Your house is literally anything that is not in order or out of balance. The following are a few examples:
1.You are having out of town guess at your house and you need to clean up, but you keep stalling.
2.You need to eat healthier, but all you want to eat is junk.
3.You need to exercise at least five days a week for sixty minutes, but you only watch tv when you get home from work.
4.You say you love your wife, but there is no evidence.
5.You say you love God whom you can’t see, but you don’t show love to your brother who you can see.
6.You want to get out of debt, but you continue to spend money you don’t have.
7.You want a better career, but you keep putting off taking the classes you need.
8.You want to stop getting tickets, but you continue to speed.
9.You want people to stay out of your business, but you post everything on social media.
10.You want situations to change, but you are not willing to change.
Whatever situation you find yourself in remember, the change starts and ends with YOU.
Make that change before it is too late!!!!