Don’t let anyone tell you what you should be doing in your house with your family. Where you should worship and how you discipline your children is your business. How often you clean your house or what you cook for dinner is also your business. The marrow of this story is keep your girlfriends out of your business.
Don’t forget 102.3 KJLH Radio Free will present the 1st annual “Men’s Empowerment Summit this Saturday September 23, 2017 from 9am to 1pm at Cal State University, Dominguez Hills. The summit will address issues in our community with the emphasis on men! It will be a day of leadership, mentoring, screenings, inspiration and information on everyday things that are vital. There will be information for our Veterans. Also there will be an array of motorcycles.
Ladies, invite the men in your family to come out. Let’s keep them happy, healthy, and informed.
If everyone were given a dollar for the times they were told they were incapable of something; all of us would be millionaires. Never look to anyone else for validation, inspiration, or motivation. If you happen to see it in another, so be it. But never search for these things. Only you have everything you need, and life is a long journey to discover everything about yourself. Do not get to the end of your life and realize you are still a mystery. Whatever you are currently doing, commit everything to it. Decide that you would rather die than give up on anything. You will fail, you will feel pain, you will question yourself, but you will never quit. You are literally willing to do everything necessary to find out who you are.
Hey Ladies, it is almost time the Men’s Empowerment Summit. It’s next Saturday September 23, 2017 from 9am to 1pm at Cal State University, Dominguez Hills. We need to encourage all the men in our lives to come. It is time for our men to take control of their lives, starting with their health and well-being. It is necessary for men to take care of themselves, so they can lead and be an example for the next generation of men.
Let’s make this a great event by bringing our men.
Let’s be mindful of the people that are in need because of the hurricanes that have hit in Texas, the Caribbean, and Florida. Also the people in Mexico who were affected by the earthquake. Let us send money, clothes, shoes , food, water and supplies. Check with your local Red Cross and churches that are sending relief to find out what the people need. We also need to pray for the safety of the First Responders and T.V. Personnel that are combing the areas to make sure everyone is okay.
Many times, our dream is just that because in some instances, we believe it to be near impossible to achieve. It takes something greater than we believe we are able to produce to make it a reality. We don’t see how our current circumstances could yield such a result… But isn’t that why we are striving towards it? Don’t we want the best for ourselves and those around us? That’s the beauty of this life. No matter where we start, it has no control over where we eventually end up. That is left up to us. So don’t be afraid our your destination because of your surroundings. As well, don’t fear the journey. Do not become complacent or routine. If that is not what you are dreaming of, remember that you are still along the journey. So keep moving forward. Along the way to the destination, it is normal to find a routine which allows us some comfort in understanding what can be unpredictable at times. But don’t let your routine keep you from your dream. Don’t hold on to the routine so much so, that you don’t work as hard as you can towards your dream. Remain focused. The thing that you are holding on to the most could be the very thing you need to let go of to make room for your dream. If it’s not getting you closer to the destination, it is weighing you down. It takes an unprecedented amount of courage, strength and focus to accomplish the goal. It’s nothing easy, but it is definitely not impossible. Don’t let that scare you.
This Sunday September 3, 2017 marks 40 years of my mother’s death. She was my best friend. She was the kind of mother that you could talk to everyday about anything, and I did. Her family was her life. She was cool with everyone. She kept up with all the latest styles of clothing. I wore her clothes on several occasions. She was full of life. She loved good music and she was a great dancer. Growing up our house was the house that all the kids came over.
I struggled mentally and physically for many years as a result of her death. I put my feelings aside because I was so hurt. I did not want to live, so there was no reason to seek help. I don’t think this was a good idea, but at the time I did. I am saying all this to say, when something tragic happens to you, seek help immediately for as long as you need it. The sooner you address your pain the better.
The pain has not gone away, but I have learned to manage it.
God has blessed our family. We have had some set backs but through it all God has always been there. In the midnight hour, God turned our family around in every area of our lives.
Today instead of crying, we celebrate her life and the joy she brought to all of us.
Some have phrased it as, “Insanity is repeating the same pattern and expecting a different result”. Do not get this confused with perseverance. That is something completely different in nature. Some of us are afraid to truly live because we cannot see the outcome. If we were truly honest with ourselves, how many of us would choose routine over happiness? What is the cost of happiness? I think a better question would be to ask the cost of routine. Why are we afraid to sacrifice what we have for what we want? We want to fly but we want to stay away from the ledge. Extraordinary is not found anywhere near predictable or logical. Extraordinary happens when you surpass ordinary. You must roll the dice, if you will. It is not easy because it requires that you do what you are not comfortable with. But what is comfort? Ask yourself what you are truly comfortable with. Some people are comfortable with debt. They may not want it, but they are comfortable with it because they have had it for so long. Some people are comfortable with back pain. Some would say that those are “just a part of life”. They are if you believe them to be. But how ironic is it that we think someone is crazy who dreams of being the first man to walk on Mars. Why is that not a part of life? Will that not happen someday? Why is that harder to grasp than having debt you cannot get rid of? Maybe it is not the call that will kill us, but the ledge itself. The ledge is keeping our feet bound, stopping us from venturing out, seeing where life will take us. Why are we afraid of what we do not know or understand? This life did not come with an instruction manual. That means the only way to truly find out what reality is, is to go find out for yourself.
For too long men have swept their health under the rug because society has told them it’s not manly. It’s time to make a change. On September 23, 2017 from 9am to 1pm bring the men in your life; your husbands, sons, brothers, uncles, and cousins, to California State University Dominguez Hills. They’ll have health experts there that can help improve their diet and also let them know about benefits they can receive that many men don’t know about. My husband was just telling me the other day how there are so many veteran’s who have served and are now homeless, and it doesn’t have to be that way. They’ll also have information on how to improve mental health since we all know that men can be so stubborn and never talk about their problems to us or their friends. It won’t be all work and no play though. There will also be food, music, and fun for the whole family. Also check out the biker community that will be there including the L.A. Gentlemen, The Buffalo Soldiers, Kings of Cali and Enlightened Ministries. We’ll also be mentoring the next generation of men and give them tips on operating in society as a man including how to escort a lady and even tying a tie. Ladies, this is going to be an amazing catalyst for change so please bring the men in your life and have them be the change we want to see in the community, because I will also be bringing mine!!!
If you wanted a two story house, would you buy a one story? Suspend the thought of family needs, finances, prices, etc. and just answer that question. Or if you wanted to be a race car driver, would you learn how to be a sports commentator?
For most, the answer is no. But when we allow family needs, finances, prices, time, patience (or lack there of), etc. into the picture, we begin to want things we really don’t want, buy what we really shouldn’t buy, and worst of all, do things we really shouldn’t do.
Read carefully. Figure out what you want. How are you going to pursue something if there is no objective? Take fitness. People say they want to lose weight. Well, if you say that when you’re thirty years old and lose five pounds when you turn ninety years old, congratulations. Don’t be surprised if you are the same size or bigger at thirty-one though.
Know what you want and be specific. If you want to lose weight, set a specific, tangible goal. Then set a time frame followed by an actionable plan. Then get to work. Don’t be surprised if you meet your goal doing that. If you don’t, all you have to do is adjust the time frame and keep working.
The number one reason people don’t set a goal or quit as soon as they begin working towards the goal is fear of failure. We are afraid to work because we might let someone down, mainly us. But fear cripples us and gives us no chance at all. Separate fear and failure. You can fail at one thing, but I guarantee if you try again, you’ll do better.
Stop trying to be what you are not. If you are human, you are not perfect. We are continual works in progress. And don’t let the athletes or models fool you. There is nothing perfect about us or the world we live in. Failure is a part of life. Quitting, however, is not.
When you buy the one story house when you really wanted the two story, you gave up. You can excuse it with all of the financial and family reasons you want, but you still settle when it came to what you really wanted… if you stay there.
Continue to work through adversity and make that two story house your next house. Don’t quit. Even if it doesn’t happen today, tomorrow holds promise. As long as you are here, goals are a possibility and dreams are a reality. Don’t let “good enough for right now” become “good enough forever”. Get whatever it is that you really want.